I’m sure all of you have had your fair share of recurring, unticked items on your New Year’s Resolution every year–I know I do. I know it’s difficult, really, to fulfill these items on that godforsaken, never-changing list, and we always feel as though it’s easier to not try at all.
That’s where most of us are wrong.
You are a work in progress. You may not feel it, but everyday, you are changing. They may not be big, dramatic changes, but they still exist, and that’s all that matters.
If you put an item on your New Year’s Resolution this coming 2015, don’t stress yourself out trying to make it happen instantly. It will happen, gradually, eventually, as long as you put your mind into it. It may not be today, or tomorrow, or next week, or even the next year, but that’s the thing about trying to change yourself: Growing up takes time, just as change does too.
This is why we have to keep writing down that list, even if it’s just a carbon copy of the one we made the past year. This is why you shouldn’t give up on it just because 2014 ended without any visible changes.
1) Be realistic. Sure, you can dream big, but make your goals attainable. Setting unreachable goals will only result to failure, and, more often than not, failure results in giving up. If you set your goals just right, the chances of fulfilling them are much, much higher. When you accomplish them, you will begin to feel as though you are doing progress.
2) Plan. Break down your goal into different sub-goals. It will give you a sense of direction, a set of steps that you should follow to get to your destination.
3) Look for positive quotes whenever you need motivation. Seriously. I can’t tell you enough how much this will help. If you just failed an exam and you’re feeling down, head to Google and search for quotes about failure or grades or school. Google can be one of your best friends. I actually suggest looking for a good quote everyday, even when you don’t feel like you need them. Write all of them down in a notebook or paper or whatever.
I still have a lot of shit to deal with before the year ends, but I’m really looking forward to 2015. I may be writing down the same things from this year’s list, but I’m fine with that.
We’ll get there someday.